All too often I am aware of the adage “comparison is the thief of joy”. All too often I get bamboozled by this petty thief. It’s an annoying gnat that flutters too close between my eyes. Too often I numbly fall into the trap of conceding that if only ‘this’ would happen or if I could be ‘that’ then all would be well with the world. (Ahem…my world).
If my life does not include what ‘they’ have, then my life got chalked up to imperfect (aka incomplete).
Complete and utter nonsense!
I have been made privy to the surface perfection of other people’s lives. (You have too!)
How could I be convinced of such a thing?
I’m going to say that I faltered in a moment of weakness.
When sanity returns like a bucket of ice water thrown at the face, I see the deception of self pity.
Outer pomp hides well the inner life.
First of all, there is no such thing as a perfect life.
Second, we all have our share of burdens to bear. (Some people choose to hide theirs.)
When our perception gets skewed into believing that if by having “x” our challenges with adequacy, self-esteem or life enjoyment would be solved, we have entered the realm of The Great Delusion.
It is not healthy for us to always get what we want. I agree, it can be heart-wrenching when we don’t, but I think it keeps us in proximity to the heart of humanity. Pleasure is a reward, a most welcomed gift; but without its antithesis, pain, pleasure would not exist.
What is life if we only strive to satisfy our self interests? Are we not reduced to being slaves to self? If in life we recognize that we each have our own burdens to shoulder and challenges to work through, would we not be more compassionate to help a soul and forget about self for a time? Would we be more careful not to flaunt what we have in front of those who don’t have? Would we be more perceptive to understand that there is always more than what meets the eye?
Life is so much more than a menagerie of achievements and ascending status.
To me life is about people; it’s about us living together, helping each other, sharing in the good and bad times. The people we cherish is what makes life sooooo great.